Parenting During Tough Economic TimesIf you're a parent with money worries life can be pretty tough. You might need time to earn extra money, work on your finances or just unwind from a draining, demanding day. But your kids still need your attention and they may have worries of their own. How can you parent well when times are tough? Consider some steps that can support your family and preserve your own health.Limit kid's exposure to worries. Try not to talk too much about your own fears when the kids are listening and consider turning off the TV news. You may think your 5-year old tunes out adult topics, but he may hear just enough to spark his active imagination. Share honestly but appropriately. Secrets can be scary. You certainly don't want to overwhelm your child with information, but it's probably best to share some of your family's financial situation. Take a reassuring approach by pointing out any areas you know are stable, such as staying in the same school despite any other changes. Economize in a way that's clear and fair. If you need to scale back on your children's after-school activities, letting them pick from a few options may decrease their disappointment. You might also consider less-expensive options at local community centers, libraries, Boy's & Girl's Club or Girl's Inc. Don't forget to show the kids that you're cutting back on some of your own "extras" as well. Keep predictability high. Kids like routine. Make sure your child's routine includes exercise to burn off energy, soothing nighttime activities, and above all some special time with you. Children crave attention, and if they're not getting it in a positive way they may get it by acting out. Take a breather. Let's face it. Rearing kids can be a ton of work. If you feel that your stress is affecting your ability to be kind and gentle, go off somewhere to regain your composure. Don't let your kids feel it's their fault you're having a bad moment. Get professional help if you need it. If you're having trouble parenting or dealing with any of your day-to-day responsibilities, get help. Some sources for finding therapy include your primary care doctor, clergy member or your local Mental Health America affiliate at 522-3480. Check out our new website for more information: www.mentalhealthamericajc.net.
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